Changing What I put in Pan "A"

In our series on "Why Don't I have What I Want?" We have determined that we have actually weighted our scale with the thoughts of what we do not want. So how do we change that? How do we fill our pan with thoughts of what we do want?

First, be aware of what you are putting in your pan. Some people are dogmatic in their approach to this and will tell you is you say "I want ________" then you are reinforcing lack (or wanting) of the desire, not the having of it. The bottom line is the emotion behind the words, not the words themselves. If it is easier for you to start off by carefully choosing your words when talking about your point of desire then do that.

However, I find many people who follow the dogmatic approach and still don't have success. How come? They are saying all the right words, but the feelings aren't there! For every positive statement or affirmation they are saying, their inner voice is shouting back 3 or 4 negative ones--as straight forward as "that's not true" or "you liar" or "oh right, don't you wish". Or they are feeling a sense of longing for or pining for the desire. This longing or pining is really an admission of lacking it.

So in this case, good words or not, you are filling pan A with feelings of lack. So again, I will encourage you to do things that bring you the feeling of having that desired outcome or object.

If you want a new car--cut out pictures of it, take it out for a test drive, take a photo of yourself in it, visualize yourself in it--driving it, owning it. See it parked in your driveway or your garage. By filling pan "A" with the joyful feelings of owning that car, pan "B" gets filled with the Universe's response to give you more opportunities to feel that--including actually getting that car!

Remember, the Universe is blindfolded. She doesn't know if you actually already have the car or if you are just pretending. She only feels to what you are feeling and responds accordingly.

While you are practicing this (because it does take some practice--most of us have drummed daydreaming out of our lives and aren't used to imagining any more) if you find that you are contradicting you positive thoughts with feelings of disbelief or lack, play with it and be gentle on yourself. Ask yourself, what if it were true? wouldn't it be nice if it were true? and use that as a starting point.

Will your results be instantaneous? Probably not! Whether your thoughts are positive or negative you will most likely experience a delay. It isn't a single thought that is going to bring you the car--it is the overall balance of thoughts. So keep it up and be open to receiving!